I’ve been intrigued by RD’s recent expose on Sri Lankanisms and I have one more to add, the long goodbye. I’m not entirely sure however whether this Lankanism is widespread or whether it’s just me and the lunatic asylum that makes up my family. My dad’s side is the worst at this though and any family function involves a ridiculous amount of goodbyes. There was one particularly memorable night when the whole clan was there, the half French cousins, the half Welsh ones, the arty aunt and the dignified aunt along with the Grandparents. The guests of honour were some old family friends and their two daughters (wonder what happened to them, they were quite delic back in the day).
The first goodbye was said around midnight in the salé. The whole troop then moved to the front door of the flat and stood around talking for about 20 minutes before decamping to the front gate. More talking, half inside the apartment building and half spilt onto Havelock Road. More talking for about half an hour before the guests got into their car. Things approached a farcical level when the family continued talking to the departing guests while they sat in their car. I just wished we could have done this inside where I had been comfortably ensconced on a sofa. Another 15 minutes of talking and the night was finally over, a good hour and a half after the first goodbye was said.
I find that either because of my rapid ageing or genetics I do the same thing now. Even the online world is not safe, though in this case I wasn’t really to blame too much. As Sri Lankan’s I think a simply “bye” or in my case “laters” just doesn’t cut it a goodbye has to go on for at least eight lines!
N: hey ive gotta run….mothers day..have to take the mater out for dinner and all that jazz
J: hehe
J: alright
N: mystery cleared up and im glad this was u! and not some random wierdo….catch u laters
J: yeah me too
J: ttyl
N: tc and happy monday!
J: keep in touch…
J:
J: tc
J: bye bye
N: will do..laters
J: yeah.. laterz

Who is J?
Comment by Mr. Evil — May 15, 2007 @ 2:57 am
Oh my god! This was like a scene from my own place! And I thought only we were the only ones that did it!
Comment by indyana — May 15, 2007 @ 3:34 am
I usually say ‘bye!’ and actually leave. When I come back I see all sorts of ‘take care’ etc etc. Sigh.
Don’t get me started on how long it takes to say bye to people in SL. Weddings are the worst. I used to have an organised method of attack, i.e. I’d round up my parents, scout out who needed a goodbye and where they were and then efficiently drag my parents through at top speed and we’d be done by 15mins tops!
Comment by Darwin — May 15, 2007 @ 6:59 am
Dude, it ain’t just your clan. Gah. They always seem to drag it more when you really have to be elswere and just want to get out of the current place.
Comment by SpectralCentroid — May 15, 2007 @ 11:23 pm
I’m not Sri Lankan but I totally noticed this long good bye Lankanism too!
Initially, I thought it was a Sri Lankan-thing, and then later, I decided that I was just reading into things too much being a “foreigner” and all, and now, your post has confirmed that I was right all along!
haha, thanks
Comment by jackie — May 17, 2007 @ 4:30 am
Evil - mutual friend of ours
Indyana - good to hear its not just us
Darwin - gah, dread to think what the clan would be like at a wedding…nice technique
SC - that’s when I usually quietly scoot…
Jackie - glad to be of service
Comment by childof25 — May 21, 2007 @ 7:00 pm